Monday, 28 November 2011

Dogs' Life

Dog, the most faithful, devoted and loving animal on this earth gives the tips of a happy living :
  • Atithi Devobhava  :  Invite your guests with a smile and enthusiasm
  • Never miss an apportunity to go for a walk. It improves your health!
  • While walking enjoy the cool breeze on your face and suck in the fresh air.
  • Be polite with your well-wishers.
  • If somebody occupies your domain you have every right to resist and protest.
  • Take a deep sleep, stretch our body afterwards, get refreshed and be active.
  • Attract people with your witty intelligence and endear yourself to everybody.
  • If a bark is sufficient then there is no need to bite.
  • If is it a sunny day, make full use of it by running in a garden in the grass.
  • Anger and fight should not lead to termination of friendship. Forgive and forget.
  • Eat with pleasure and stop when you are still a little hungry.
  • Be loyal and honest, don’t pretend.
  • Dig deeply till the truth comes out.
  • If your closed one is in distress, just sit by their side and express your empathy.
  • Till somebody gains your confidence, don’t entertain them or let them in.

Wednesday, 23 November 2011




I think that best living thing on this earth is Dog. I had always heard and read that having and taking care of a pet is a real stress buster. But after bringing up two children, I was very apprehensive to bring home a young one. Children pestered always and we always postponed. It went on for years. But when they grew up and Rashmi my daughter offered to take care and manage him fully and independently, there was no reason to refuse.May be the truth is that in our heart we also wanted a pet.

How to deal with examination pressure ?

I was both shocked and pained by the incident that happened in PESIT engineering college day before yesterday. An young life was cut short by the insensitivity of the teachers. If the teachers have really put pressure on the boy and thereby were instrumental in the kid taking this extreme step it is really unpardonable. How can you force anybody to exceed their limits?
It is one thing to encourage and motivate but totally wrong to put pressure. Common, if that were the case why are you not Bill Gates or Steve Jobs? Come to think of it both of them were actually school drop-outs and leave alone becoming like them, even to work in their company, anybody would give up his right hand !

Even after two days I am not able to sleep and my eyes turn moist every time I recall that innocent face and the plight of their parents. And to top it all, the college management has given a statement that they will appoint counselors for the students. Mr.Jawahar, it is not the students but the teachers and the management which needs counseling.

By the way why is this society so worked up about such degrees and tags? Agreed the salary is handsome but one should always be aware of their wards’ limitations. Just by admitting your kid to IIT coaching classes doesn’t ensure that he will enter the premier institution. They will trap you with letters that your child is one in top 50 or 100. He may be one in that particular class, but not in the entire country where such coaching classes have mushroomed in every city. According to me a parent can easily judge whether his son/daughter can get through such competitive exams. If they are marginally lagging, encourage them. Otherwise let them do what they are happy and comfortable with.

A word to the student also. Dear Pranav, what have you achieved by sacrificing your life except giving pain to your parents, loved ones? The society will cry for a week but the public memory is very short. Actually yours is an act of cowardice. You could have challenged your detractors by doing what you want and excelling in what your heart tells you to do and asking them to go to hell. That would have encouraged your fellow students too. Life is a very precious gift from God to be wasted like this. Agreed you may not earn as much as next guy, but you should learn to draw the line. Can we change physical appearance if one has a squint eye or a flat nose or a short body. ( Hello, don’t bring Prianka chopra or Rakhi sawant here!) So same is the case with our mental abilities too.One can go only this far and no further.

So parents and teachers, please don’t push the young ones too hard, and the boys and girls, be smart, listen to the elders, and learn and excel in what you enjoy. Remember


Monday, 21 November 2011

Laughter is The Best Medicine

Laughter The Best Medicine


Where all that laughter has gone? Remember those giggles you shared in the class room? Remember how you laughed and laughed with your friends during combined studies, holding your sides, till tears started rolling down your cheeks? Then surely you must remember the reason for that laughter. No? Try again. At least can you remember the last time you laughed like that recently ? Where do we lose that light mirth which makes us laugh at silliest possible reasons.In this bittersweet life it is the laughter which is the real elixir of life.

The earliest incident I can remember was when I was in my high school. We were studying in a school in Gulbarga and had gone to Gokak to attend the marriage of my friend shobha's brother Vijayanna. In those days it was a practice to travel in a bus all the way from boy's town to the bride's where we were put up in small vacant houses. No such thing as choultry or wedding hall way back then and especially in small towns like Gokak.Even the wedding ceremony was conducted in small houses, covering the entire road in shamiana where the food was to be served. As children we never bothered about the luxuries as what mattered most was the chance to be with friends and miss the school !

On the night before marriage, after dinner we arrived at the adjacent house, called "beegara mane" to sleep. But sleep was the last thing on our mind as we lay on the rows of carpet along with aunties, grannies and mamis. As elders were tired and anxious to get up early in the morning started their sleep and snoring simultaneously, one of the girls could not control her laughter and giggled. Lo. that was the spark for the ignition of the series of giggles that followed. If hers was just a small " khi ! " someone from the other corner joined by a " khee khee " and a third by a louder " hee hee". A grandma who was light on sleep got irritated and snapped " sumne bidkolre " ( sleep silently ). Just imagine! That snap made another giggle loudly, joined by many more. This time ajji lost her sleep and peace completely and shouted loudly " Hucchu mundera bai muchkondu malkolre". ( By the way this slang may shock the citiwallas and people of other part of karnataka,but it was the most accepted language in north Karnataka). Though it ensured a silence for a few minutes, it also ensured a louder snore by aunties and maamis and thereby as a chain reaction of a louder guffaw by the girls.

The hysterical laughter by us awakened the other elders and without even knowing the reason they also started to giggle and like an epidemic it spread the entire house. Even those sleeping in other rooms joined in the laughter and this amused we girls all the more because we were happy that we were successful in waking up all and also avoided being scold. Someone courageous from us got up and switched on the light and we all turned towards ajji to see her reaction. Ajji was having a benevolent and indulgent smile on her face which emboldened us to carry on with our pranks whole night!

On another occasion, during Deepavali vacation I had been to my elder sister Geetha's house in Gangavathi, a small town in Raichur district. It was a joint family and her mother-in-law was very orthodox. She would keep aside a part of the lunch prepared by her aside in the big pooja room separately for her dinner so that so that nobody touches it and she can have her own cooked food and still avoid cooking in the night.

I who was in my high school was totally was unaware of all these intricacies. In the evening when I came back from playing, she told me " Go eat some poori payasa ". She actually meant the food left and kept in the kitchen, but I while playing hide and seek in the afternoon had noticed the poories and payasa kept in the pooja room. So without a second thought I picked four poories and payasa from the pooja room, took to the veranda and ate it. When I came back to the kitchen to drink water and saw a plate of poories and payasam at first I was surprised. Then suddenly it dawned that this is the plate my sister has kept for me on hearing her mother-in-law and I was supposed to eat it.

I picked the poories and tip-toed to the pooja room and put it in the box from which I had taken the poories and heaved a sigh of relief. But the real drama was to start later. In the night when the mother-in-law opened the box, she was perplexed.She started calling my sister " Geetha I had kept six poories and two cups of payasam but now only five poories and one cup of payasam is there. Have you touched it? My sister, who was a new bride to that family was both scared and flummoxed. When she replied in negative her mother-in-law grew all the more suspicious fearing that the cat must have eaten the missing part ! By this time I had realised the whole scene and put the blanket on my head as if in deep sleep but hardly able to control my giggles imagining the looks on the faces of my sister and her mother-in-law.

It was only later that I narrated this to my sister who at first gave a sound slap for my mischief and then could not control her laughter but joined in my giggles recalling the look on her mother-in-law's face !